My first full school year has a REP facilitator has been filled with up and…
- You’re allowed to be busy, allowed to be your own person.
It’s okay to not talk to the person you are dating every hour of everyday. Relationships are about trust. You don’t have to say what you are doing all the time or who you are with. Trust should be mutual in a relationship, they should trust you the same way that you trust them. Trust that they are the person that you are going to want to talk about your entire day with.
2. You don’t need to ask permission. PERIOD.
You were an independent person before the relationship and you are still that during the relationship. You don’t need to ask permission to do anything. Relationships are about growth both personally and as a couple. To grow you need to have experiences, you don’t need to ask to grow.
- Relationships are with two people, they aren’t clubs.
It’s your relationship not anyone else’s. A relationship is between two people, it shouldn’t involve others. What you choose to do or not to do in a relationship is between you and your partner and it should not be spread to others. You shouldn’t feel ashamed, embarrassed or uncomfortable around their friend because they aren’t supposed to know everything that is going on.
- You are so much stronger than you think you are.
You are important and you are so much stronger than they want you to feel. You have the ability to do anything you set your mind to. Remember to take a deep breath and remember who you really are.
Sydney Calcaterra, Clemson intern