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Resources

Coaching Boys Into Men Curriculum

Furman_CBIM_Training Cards

CBIM Coaches Presentation_FurmanFutures without Violence

Coaches Corner (Coaching Boys Into Men homepage)

Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault Resources

Safe Harbor

Julie Valentine Center (Sexual Assault Center in Greenville County)

Overview of SC Laws Regarding Sexual Assault and Consent

One Love Foundation

Love is Respect

Stories/Videos/Helpful Content

CBIM Helpful Video Playlist – Some of these are good to use at practice, some are helpful for coaches.

Campus Resources

Furman Title IX office resource page – On and off campus resources can be found here.

On-campus Resources

Confidential Resources

The university encourages all community members to make a prompt report of any incident of sexual harassment, sexual violence, stalking or intimate partner violence to local law enforcement and the University. For individuals who are not prepared to make a report, or who may be unsure what happened, but are still seeking information and support, there are several on-campus confidential resources available. Confidential resources will not share any information with the University or anyone else, unless there is an imminent risk of harm to self or others.

Confidential Support for Students

  • Office of Spiritual Life
    864.294.2133
  • Counseling Center
    864.294.3031
  • Earle Student Health Center
    864.294.2180

Healthy Relationships Info

Healthy Relationship Behaviors

  • Comfortable Pace – The relationship moves at a comfortable pace for both of you.
  • Trust – There is trust between you both.
  • Honesty – You’re both honest with each other.
  • Independence – You both have space to be by yourself outside of the relationship.
  • Respect – You respect each other’s beliefs and opinions.
  • Equality – You both put in equal effort into the relationship and feel like there is an equal power dynamic.
  • Kindness – You’re caring and empathetic with one another.
  • Taking Responsibility – Own your actions and words.
  • Healthy Conflict – Openly and respectfully discuss issues without being judgmental or placing blame.
  • Fun – You truly enjoy spending time together and bring out the best in each other.
  • More information can be found here: https://www.joinonelove.org/relationships-101/

Red flags for Unhealthy Relationships

  • Intensity – Someone expresses very intense feelings and their reactions are over-the-top which can make you feel overwhelmed.
  • Possessiveness – When someone is unhealthily jealous and wants to control who you spend time with and what you do.
  • Manipulation – When someone tries to control your decisions, actions or emotions. This can be subtle or passive-aggressive.
  • Isolation – When someone keeps you away from family, friends, or other people. This can slowly lead to a dependence on them.
  • Sabotage – When someone purposefully ruins your reputation, achievements, or success.
  • Belittling – When someone does or says something that makes you feel bad about yourself.
  • Guilting – When someone makes you feel responsible for their actions or makes you feel like it’s your job to keep them happy.
  • Volatility – When someone has a strong, unpredictable reaction that makes you feel scared, confused, or intimidated.
  • Deflecting Responsibility – When someone repeatedly makes excuses for their unhealthy behavior.
  • Betrayal – When someone is disloyal or acts in an intentionally dishonest way.
  • More information can be found here: https://www.joinonelove.org/relationships-101/
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